Love can do that. Risk the possible.

By invitation

Love can do what fear never will.

It heals. It reconnects. It forgives. It transforms. It reminds us who we were before the world told us who to become.

Private coaching, and three day immersions for small groups. This is about transformation, in how you lead and how you live.

One to oneSmall groupsRoatán and the Hudson ValleyBy conversation only
Start with a conversationNo commitment. We talk first.
Tracey Abbott seated in a glasshouse among cacti, brown tulle skirt spread around her, smiling

Follow the white rabbit

I am still the girl who lived in Wonderland.

Alice in Wonderland's magic is how I live my life. Full of curiosity, and wonder at what is possible.

Following the white rabbit is not a method. It is a way of seeing the world, with curiosity and wonder, and trusting where that leads.

Most people brace for something solemn, and meet, instead, their own wonder. Play. Creativity. A flame they were sure had gone out, catching again.

This work is about getting back the part of you that was alive and full of possibility, the part that was here before the world told you who to become. That is where everything else starts.

What opens

Tracey Abbott in a glasshouse, brown tulle sweeping out beside her like a veil

Behind the veil

The closer you get to nature, the more the veil thins.

Out here, away from the noise and the managing and the performing, something quiets. The part of you that edits and defends gets still, and what is behind it was always there.

That is where you start to hear it again. Your own intuition. Your own voice. Not the one the world handed you, the one that was yours before any of it.

Analysis will only ever take you so far. The rest you have to feel. The veil is not hiding a different you. It is hiding this one.

Who's asking

You are successful on paper, and some part of you knows that is not the whole story.

Maybe you are in the middle of something, a change you chose or one that chose you. Maybe you have held it together for everyone else so long that you are tired in a way sleep does not touch. Maybe you have done years of talk therapy and hit a wall you can describe perfectly. You are not in crisis. You are not fine either.

I know that place because I have stood in it. In the summer of 2024 I was in the biggest, hardest job of my career, a senior seat in private equity, with expectations coming from every direction. At the same time my partner went into heart failure and my mother was sick. I could not be at work the way I needed to be, and everything was coming down at once. That summer I sat down and wrote the plan for my life. It is the plan I am living now.

And I do this for one reason. When people in real power wake up to how connected everything is, the world changes. That is the whole mission.

Tracey Abbott at home in a Stevie Nicks t-shirt and tulle skirt

Identity wheel

Who am I? It is the hardest question you will ever wrestle with.

These are the nine that keep showing up for work. They are why I can sit with a CEO at nine and someone taking the mask off at two, and never become a different person in between.

Touch a word and it will tell you its story. Then the real question is not mine. It is yours. What are yours?

  • ConnectorI have spent a career putting the right people in the right room. This room only holds two. It is still the same job.
  • BuilderA Chick-fil-A I opened myself. A three hundred fifty million dollar P&L. A practice I started from nothing with no net. I build the container before anybody walks in.
  • EmpathI feel a room before I read it. For most of my career that was the thing I apologized for. Here it is the whole job.
  • InsiderEight years as an Operating Partner. Five board seats. I already know what your calendar looks like and what it is costing you.
  • ExpatriateTen years living outside my own country. You learn fast that the way you were raised to see things is one option, not the truth.
  • ExplorerAlice in Wonderland as a child. Under water off Roatán now. Follow the white rabbit is not a slogan for me. It is a method.
  • ObserverThousands of hours watching leaders under pressure. I notice who partners, who opposes, and who goes quiet exactly when it matters.
  • OutsiderSingle mom household in Alabama, then boardrooms on four continents. I have never fully belonged in either one. That turns out to be useful in here.
  • Balanced humanHuman beings and becomings, not human doings. I will not ask you to be anything in that room that I am not willing to be first.
Tracey Abbott in a black heartwork t-shirt

The work

This is deep internal work. Exploring the subconscious, and what happens when we remove the masks we wear.

For thirty years I watched the answer come from analysis. What actually moved people was the thing they already knew and had never said out loud. It will be the same for you.

You are not broken. You are carrying something that has never had a safe place to be set down. The healing starts the moment the mask comes off. I have lived that too.

I do not fix anyone. I hold the container, and I am the facilitator. The transformation is yours.

How it runs

Nothing starts from a form. We talk first.

i

The conversation

It always starts the same way. No commitment, just the two of us deciding together whether this is right for you. Either of us can decide not to go forward, and that decision costs you nothing.

ii

The work

Standing sessions, and real access between them. You text before a board meeting, I respond. You need to think out loud after a hard conversation with your CFO, I am there. Depth over breadth.

iii

Integration

This is where it becomes real. I give you the tools to take what opens up and put it to work in how you lead. This is the internal work that unlocks the next level of leadership, by realigning you with your values and your purpose.

Start with a conversation

For groups

Some of the deepest work happens alongside other people doing the same.

Everything above is built for one person. I also hold this for small groups who have already earned the trust it asks for. Founders a decade in. A leadership team that survived a brutal year and never once talked about what it cost them.

Same discipline, built for a room instead of a chair. A private location, shared only once everyone is confirmed. Small groups, so everyone gets real time, and everyone leaves knowing something real about the others.

And for anyone who wants to go further, there is the three day immersion, on Roatán or in my woods in the Hudson Valley.

A circle of sheepskin floor seats on a wooden deck under a big mountain sky, a vase of roses in the center
A log cabin room prepared for a group circle, mats and sheepskins arranged around a stone fireplace and flowers
The kind of room we build
Cover of The Pearl Dive, a complimentary journal by Tracey Abbott

Start tonight

The Pearl Dive. A journal, a pen, and the questions that matter.

You do not have to work with me to use this. It is a journal I made for the leaders I coach, a set of deep questions you sit with on your own. It is free, and it asks nothing of you, not even an email.

Every pearl begins with an irritation. Every transformation begins with the courage to dive. Most people try to become themselves by adding, more skills, more credentials, more strategy. This does the opposite. What is left at the end is the thing you have been carrying the whole time.

Download the Pearl Dive

When people in power reconnect to their values and their own voice, we have the power to change the world.

Why I do this

Who this is for

This is for people who want a guide in how to transform their lives.

Not a strategy, and not a pep talk. A partner for the work of becoming who you actually are, and leading from there.

Tracey Abbott seated on a terra cotta planter among cacti, wearing a velvet blazer

Who tends to find me

  • People in the middle of feeling stuck, and hesitating.
  • People who are lonely in the roles they play.
  • Founders and operators who are very good at holding it together, and are tired.
  • High performers who are successful on paper, and cannot yet see what is next.
  • People who have done years of talk therapy and hit a wall they can describe perfectly.
  • People who are not in crisis, and are not fine either.

Why me

The range is the credential.

Twenty five years operating across five continents. An MBA in French and Finance. A P&L, a franchise, eight years as a private equity Operating Partner, five board seats. I coach from lived experience, my failures as much as the things that worked.

And the training under the instinct. An executive coaching certification from Georgetown, credentialed through the International Coaching Federation, and the program at InnerTrek.

What you get is a partner who stays, questions that go where analysis cannot, and confidentiality that is not negotiable. And enough respect for you to say no when no is the right answer.

I do not promise outcomes. Anyone who does is selling something.

Tracey Abbott crouched among desert plants in a striped sweater

Begin

Start with a conversation. Not a booking, just a conversation.

Tell me a little about what brings you here. I hold this confidentially, and I answer everything personally, usually within a few days. Nothing is scheduled from a form. We talk first, and only if it is right for you does anything happen after that.

If a form is not how you want to start, write to hello@lovecandothat.com.

Tracey Abbott at a dark barn door, arms wide open in a cream fringe poncho, smiling

Love can do that.

Love is not soft. It is the force that lets us tell the truth, forgive, begin again, and become who we were meant to be.

Risk the possible